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Challenging Coaching Questions


I would like to thank Michal Faron for asking people to share their top 5 bravest/provocative questions on the Coaching Zone Linked In group. It was interesting to read the examples posted by other coaches. I see similar questions pop up on Linked In discussions every now and again. A few weeks ago I read a discussion about the use of the ‘why’ question. (Sorry but I can’t find this discussion to acknowledge the contributors).

When reading the example questions suggested by other coaches I do not feel the impact or the power. It is not because the example questions are not good, but when written down, they are without the context. The questions are detached from the emotion of that moment in the coaching room.

Powerful questions picture for blog A powerful question has weight, so much so that when spoken it lands with such a thud that the floor shakes. For me a powerful question is much more than the words alone. A question is wrapped up with body language, tone of voice, the context of the discussion, etc. It is much more to do with the energy in the room. It is about both ‘what’ is said and ‘how’ it is said.  So the ‘characteristics’ of the challenging question are more important. These include:

  • A question that changes the level of tension in the room (either increasing thetension if too low, or decreasing the tension if the coaching session is overwhelming the coachee).
  • A question which takes the coachee to a place they had not previously considered, or had not wanted to consider.
  • A question that takes the coachee by surprise.
  • A question that probes the inner feelings and beliefs of the coachee.
  • A question that is spontaneous.

Example questions are interesting, but for a question to have real power, it needs to be in the moment, not scripted. The source of powerful questions is the passionate curiosity of the coach and the overwhelming desire to understand and say what needs to be said. By speaking their truth, a coach asks a powerful question that appears as if from nowhere, with the weight of congruence, authenticity and integrity.

Maybe it’s more useful to reflect on a time when you as a coach felt that you asked a really powerful question. Consider:

  • What happened?
  • What you said and how you said it?
  • Why did you ask this question? Where inside you did the question come from?
  • What happened in the build up to the question (actions and words)?
  • What happened after you asked the question?
  • What does this tell you about your coaching practice?

Post your thoughts on the Challenging Coaching LinkedIn Group.

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