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From Dependence to Interdependence the ‘deeper FACTS’

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This week John and I presented to the Bristol and Bath Coaching Group. After discussing the FACTS model we talked about chapter 10 of “Challenging Coaching” and what we call the ‘deeper FACTS ‘ for the first time. In chapter 10 we move from the support and challenge of coaching to freedom and responsibility in the world at large. There are two reason why we have not  spoken about this in seminars and workshops, firstly at previous workshops covering the principles and cornerstones of FACTS has always taken up the time. Secondly we have shied away from talking about the ‘deeper FACTS’ as chapter 10 is a challenging conceptual leap.
To paraphrase John Whitmore "Coaching is bigger than coaching" and this is the premise on the deeper FACTS. We make the conceptual leap from support and challenge to freedom and responsibility. With support comes freedom, and with challenge comes responsibility.  This idea is developed in the 2x2 matrix with freedom on the vertical axis and responsibility on the horizontal axis.
We have a hypothesis that states that society/work environment has moved from dependence to independence and we will see the move towards interdependence. Traditionally workers have been in command and control environment, boss and subordinate which is low freedom and low responsibility. Individuals have limited freedom as they are told what to do by their boss, and also limited responsibility, as the boss is accountable.  However, we are noticing a move away from the command and control culture. The epoch of the heroic leader is over. Generation X and Y are demanding more freedom and independence. There is the expectation of more autonomy and flexibility to satisfy broader needs. However, this is still a relatively individual pursuit of a person's own needs. Interdependence recognises that I can only be truly free if other people are also free. We are in a connected system, we are interdependent. There is collective freedom but also a collective responsibility.
Coaching has an important role in helping people move from dependence, to independence and ultimately to interdependence.
However, there is not a short cut. I can not go straight for dependence to interdependence. Independence is the foundation for interdependence. Metaphorically speaking I need to walk the road and experience all of the places along the way. It is the journey which creates understanding and the wisdom needed for interdependence to flourish.
The table below describes the differences:
Dependence
Independence
Interdependence
Focus on belonging and security
Focus on status and achievements
Focus on meaning and purpose
Command and control
Empowerment
Coaching
Boss/subordinate
Leader/follower
We/us
Exploited
Exploiter
Partner
Conform
Compete
Collaborate
Powerless
Powerful
Power sharing
“I am safe”
“I am safe and I am free”
“We are safe and we are free and we are responsible”
I remember a few years ago and in the early days of Challenging Coaching that we presented to a seminar of coaches and introduced the need for coaches to be more challenging as we have a big role to play in business and individual performance. This was in the midst of the credit crunch and with the launch of our first book "Where were all the coaches when the banks went down?" One member of the audience commented that this belief was incredible arrogant as we are only coaches.
Maybe it is the memory of feedback like this that has held us back from talking about the ‘deeper FACTS’. However, we whole-heartedly agree with John Whitmore that coaching is bigger than coaching. Take the quote from Margaret Mead that “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has”.
Please visit www.challengingcoaching.co.uk for more information and I welcome your thoughts, can coaching change the world, visit our Linked In Challenging Coaching Group and post a comment.

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