No one likes to be micro-managed. Ana Antunes da Silva gives us her advice on how to deal with these office 'P.A.I.N.S'.
Are you being micro-managed at work? Have you ever been? Unfortunately, a vast majority of people have had to endure this type of manager.
How to tell if your boss is micro-managing
Here are some indicators that your manger may be on the verge of nano-managing:
- They struggle to delegate any tasks and when they do, they often take it back before the project is complete
- When given an assignment you are told exactly and very precisely how it should be done
- You are expected to report on the status of your work more often than advisable to be perceived as constructive
- Your boss is so involved in every single minute detail that it prevents projects from moving forward
- Individual thinking and decision making is discouraged
What are the reasons for micro-managing?
The urge to micro-manage can come from three main sources:
1. This person held a front line role where a close degree of control was important. As a manager, they struggle to relinquish control as they assume this is what got them promoted in the first place
2. It is simply and purely a personality trait
3. Lack of understanding about the product or service
How to manage a micro-manager aka P.A.I.N.S.
Much has been said and written about changing your boss, but unless your boss actually wants to alter their behaviour, you are fighting a losing battle. Besides, if your manager is a typical micro-manager, being told what to do by a subordinate is unlikely to go down well. P.A.I.N.S takes you through handling a micro-managing boss:
1. Personal
2. Awareness
Try to perceive the behaviours as good intentions taken to the extreme. Their interpretation of positive characteristics such as diligence, reliability and commitment is rather radical. However, the important factor remains that they possess these. Remind yourself that the constant checking is no reflection of your work and is not personal; it is about your manger and their management style. Avoid the temptation to become defensive or resentful. Focus on how to deal with the situation rather than dwell on how you wish things were different.
3. Interaction
Communication and interaction are crucial in any working relationship and with a micro-manager even more so. To ensure you are providing what your manager wants, ask how they prefer to be updated (email, memos, meetings). By offering regular updates the micro-manager gets a sense of involvement and being in control which in turn may facilitate delegation of future assignments. You may not want to have to prepare that weekly report or copy your boss in on every mail, but it is a simple and effective way of keeping them off your back.
4. Notice
With time (and patience) you will start to identify what your boss wants and how they operate. Pre-empt possible questions by having relevant information handy. On the same token, ask your manager questions too. Micro-managers tend to love being asked for advice so soliciting suggestions is a sure-fire way of getting into their good books. You may also want to keep a note of your meetings and interactions so you don't forget any important details and hence emphasise that you are on top of everything.
5. Standpoint
Try to see things from your boss' perspective. Take a look around. It may be that those surrounding you are not as competent, so your manager has had to adopt a tighter rein. If you are fortunate enough to be surrounded by equally talented people, this behaviour may stem from a previous experience. Once bitten twice shy.
Working for a micro-managing boss can be exhausting. However, you are not powerless. Try out a few of these tips and ideas and hopefully you will reduce your levels of stress and frustration, as well as free up some time to take on more interesting projects.
