Do you believe your emotions are weaknesses you must suppress to
succeed?
I have always thought showing or simply having emotions was a weakness that needed to be controlled, crushed or suppress. But what if I told you that your emotions were not an obstacle to
success but a critical ingredient in your success and can help you increase your income beyond your dream?
As an Emotional Intelligence Practitioner and Leadership Development Coach, I educate, train, develop, coach leaders to improve their performance by allowing them to understand, integrate and use consciously their "emotions" and "thoughts" as well as the ones of other to create the results they want and influence others (after all, is it not what leadership is about?). I want to share with you what I had the privilege to learn from leaders I spent time with.
Great leaders accept their feelings and allow themselves to feel their feelings fully.
That’s right! They allow themselves to feel their fear in all its
intensity, but do it anyway. They don’t try to suppress it or step around it or deny it. They don’t fight it. They accept it and feel it. A great leader doesn’t
believe something is wrong with him when he feels a particular feeling.
Great leaders know the difference between conscious emotional action and impulsive emotional re-action.
Some people might call this emotional maturity emotional awareness. For example when a child feels angry it will hit people or break things. This is an emotional re-action. Some of
us don’t know how to stop re-acting impulsively to our emotions and it
carries into adulthood. When we feel a particular way, we re-act
negatively or we channel one emotion to a different emotion and re-act
incongruently. It is impulsive re-action most people think of when they imagine an emotional person.
Great leaders feel their emotion, name their emotions, and act on them. If you're able to recognize which emotions you feel in every part of the day, and associate this emotions to a specific event, you are able to recreate it on demands and generate the state of mind, of thoughts you want and ultimately the actions you want to produce. Imagine being able to do that when signing an important deal, create an emotion of certainty, pleasure and achievement, how will you act?
Great leaders trust their intuition. Intuition is the art of knowing without reasoning. Great leaders know that intuition is the shortcut to making great decisions quickly. We can all access our intuition if we learn to listen to our guts.
Great leaders broadcast positive emotions. Great leaders have learned to use their minds to feel and broadcast Love, Hope, Desire, Sex Appeal, Confidence, Joy, Trust, and Faith to other people. This is the best way to create report, forge relationships, another great secret of success.
Great leaders do the seemingly impossible using imagination combined with positive emotion.
They create a novel, a piece of artwork, a political movement, a military victory, an invention, or a great theory, by first imagining it in detail while feeling positive emotions like passion, love, and faith. Without intense focused emotions, there would be no world changing creations. Emotions are the fuel for behavior change, they create thoughts, states that transform the way you act.
Trust me, I wasn't always that way, for a long time I use to be arrogant, harsh to others, pushed people away and this has cost me to lose friends, opportunities,potential incomes or deals. Suppressing your emotions won’t
solve your problems because emotions will always find a way to
manifest itself.
Your emotions are your strength, not your weakness. It just depends upon how you think about them. Learn how to identify them, use them to create the thinking process you need to support and strengthen your action and have complete certainty.
Olivier Madel-Felicite
Your Emotional Intelligence Leadership Development Coach
Olivier Madel-Felicite
